Just Be Honest with Yourself

I used to lie. A lot.

I also used to be super insecure. Nowadays, I doubt myself maybe once in a blue moon.

What I’ve noticed is that a lot of people lie. And if they aren’t lying outright, they aren’t completely honest with themselves.

Here’s a hot take for you: the most insecure people are the ones who lie the most and aren’t honest with themselves.

This is, for me personally, a fact—because I’ve seen it in myself and in others.

I’m someone who loves to converse and talk to people, especially at the gym. Yes, I work out, but I also train my social muscles a lot between workout sessions.

So, I get exposed to a lot of fun conversations… and also some complete baboonery.

I won’t call people out to their faces, but I can tell when someone is either lying or fooling themselves.

Let me give you a few examples.

Example 1: The Shopify Guy

There’s this guy I know who asked me for advice on how to build a Shopify store. (For those who don’t know, Shopify is an e-commerce platform for selling stuff.)

I asked him what he wanted to sell. He told me it was for a dropshipping store.

That led to me digging deeper, asking him why he wanted to start the store. Of course, it eventually came out that he wanted to get rich.

Fair enough. But I didn’t leave it there. I dug deeper. Why did he want to be rich?

He told me it was so he could support his dog and give it the best life ever.

Cute, right? It sounds nice. But I call BS.

I can guarantee you with 100% certainty that this guy is doing it because he believes he’ll get attention from women if he’s rich.

How do I know that? Because he recently hired a dating coach. I already knew what his real motive was back then.

Example 2: The Goofball

Here’s another one for you. There’s this goofball I know at the gym. I’m usually a nice guy to everyone, but this dude is the most toxic person I’ve met so far. He earns the title of goofball.

He once argued with me that it’s important to drink alcohol with friends because it’s more fun that way.

While that may be true for some people, he was just using it as an excuse. Why? Because he’s socially incapable when he’s sober and uses alcohol as a crutch to “gain confidence.”

Complete baboonery.

What’s the Point?

So, what does all of this have to do with you?

The guys I just mentioned are some of the most insecure people I know. But the most confident people I’ve met are the total opposite.

The most confident people tell the truth no matter what—even if it makes them look bad.

It takes courage to admit you work out just to get attention from women and not feel ashamed about it.

It takes courage to be honest with yourself and say, “No, I don’t feel good about being this overweight. I have to do something about it.”

The opposite is fooling yourself into thinking it’s okay to stay in a situation you’re not truly happy with. That’s not outright lying, but it’s still not being honest with yourself.

The Takeaway

Believe me when I say this: the more honest you are with yourself and others, the less you’ll care about judgment and what people think of you. You’ll feel freer.

Take my word for it.

So, what about you? Are you willing to have the courage to tell it how it is and be honest with everyone around you? More importantly, are you ready to be truthful with yourself?

Let me know. I’d love to hear your story.

Kind regards,
Coach Loc